can always be dropped for long periods. The "obsession to dress up" does not exist.

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Somehow I find it extremely difficult to put my- self in the place of TV's who can "take it or leave" so to speak. At least on the surface they seem quite con- tented with dressing up once or twice a year. One weekend away from home or when the wife goes visiting her folks for a couple of days is enough to satisfy this type of TV. One session seems to appease the urge for a long time. But the opposite is also true. Each ses- sion increases the urge for a repeat performance. time the TV gives in, he finds himself next day with more thirst for dressing than he felt the day before. That is why many wives balk at allowing their husbands the freedom to dress as often as they feel like it. They fear that eventually this can become an "all time act- ivity" and the husband will just vanish leaving in his place a "girlfriend" or "sister" for the wife. The trouble here lies in the fact that the TV who can't dress at home will sooner or later go out of the house to indulge in a hotel room in some neighboring town. This form of "cheating" will inevitably create a sense of guilt. The TV feels that the "husband and wife" team shows a crack. Here is something which he is NOT sharing with his wife. He is hiding something from her. If he loves his wife he will hate his TVism almost in the same proportion that he loves it. And a tiny tumor of conflict will make its appearance in his personality. A tumor which in some cases may grow and poison the entire home atmosphere. What to do? Since it "takes two to tango" both husband and wife must face the situation together, analize the strength of the urge and the strength of his will power; compare this data with her feelings and attitudes; examine all the pro's and con's and reach an intelligent compromise in which he will make concessions as well as his wife. Depending on their respective personalities, mutual love, and personal characteristics a settlement is often feasible though not always easy to achieve. There may be some TV's (although I've never met one yet) who will make the entire sacrifice by themselves and give up dressing entirely... This does not necessarily mean that they have ceased to be TV's... the urge is still there, and how long will it stay quiescent? How long

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